In the wake of the announcement of Sarah Palin as John McCain's running mate, and my support of her as his choice, I had wanted to make a statement regarding the fact that she is attempting to hold a career while also being a mother with underage children. It occurred to me that some people may think that those, such as myself, who both support Palin and also advocate that mothers should be about taking care of their children (in lieu of advancing their careers) are being, at worst hypocritical, and at least inconsistent. Bonnie, writing at Culture11, has inadvertently provided me some impetus, for putting my own thoughts down, by writing a post in which she essentially accuses those of us who hold to traditionalist values of forsaking our principles by throwing our support to Palin. Despite the thoughtfulness of her post, though, I think that Bonnie has made some errors in her analysis of this complex issue.
Let me first state my opinions and position on the issues of motherhood, careers, and that of Sarah Palin as a full-time mother, in the role of VP (much less Governor). To wit, I don't think that a full-time mother, especially one with a Down Syndrome child, has any business being employed full-time, whether it be in a career of choice, or in a public servant role such as that of Governor or Vice President. (as a sidenote, I had wanted to write a similar statement regarding the antics of swimmer Dara Torres who, after having a child, decided to train for and compete in her fifth Olympics) It's my opinion that the role of a child's mother is best filled by... the child's mother. It's my opinion that the time commitments involved in holding full-time (and over-time) careers can do nothing but negatively affect the vital impact a mother has on her children. It's my opinion that being a mother to your children is more important than having a career. It's my opinion that Sarah Palin (in this case) cannot provide, for her children, her maximum level of motherly care, as well as commit fully to the office of Vice President.
Of course, I certainly could be wrong. But I know firsthand what time commitments are necessary in achieving a substantial career, and I know secondhand what time commitments are necessary in being a mother; and 24 hours per day is not enough time to accommodate both.
Yet, I support McCain's choice of Palin as his running mate, and I don't believe I'm being hypocritical or that I'm forsaking my principles, as a traditionalist, in doing so.
Before I explain how I parse out my support for Palin, let me give my analysis of Bonnie's post. In her post she states,
Since the mid-1980s, it’s been hip for religious conservatives to tout the overwhelming importance of mothers who, they say,
should stay home and raise their children. The Mommy Wars have raged. Now some are saying that it’s
fathers who are most important; they’d best be available at home too...
My gut reaction is that if it really is only since the mid-1980s that religious conservatives have voiced their concerns about the importance of mothers, it's because that is when we began seeing the impact of women entering the workforce, by choice, and attempting (in some cases) to juggle the responsibilities of having both children and careers. And with regards to the Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters book link, the claim being made by Meg Meeker (the author) is not that it's fathers who are most important, but that a young girl's father is the most important person in her life. As I stated in my review of the book, "Meeker has come to the conclusion that the father is primarily the one who shapes the path of his female children". Bonnie, I think you misrepresented Meeker's claims.
Bonnie goes on to say,
Well, dare I say, both mothers and fathers are equally crucial to the raising of their children. Does no one see the solution to our dilemma? Visualize this: mothers and fathers both negotiating employment arrangements so that, when suitable (and possible—perhaps after a nationwide overhaul of job structuring, and institution of much longer
parental leave), both can be involved in the economic (not just financial) and domestic support of their children. As many already are.
While I agree that mothers and fathers are equally crucial to the raising of their children, I think that one must be careful not to blur the lines which delineate the physiological differences that are inherent in men and women. Being equal is not equivalent to being the same. Visualizing two-parent employment arrangements, only after nationwide overhauls, seems to beg the question that such arrangements are in everyone's best interests. Some people may choose to structure their family life in such a manner, but how does such a preference mandate the implementation of national reform, much less that it is a better arrangement than one based on physiological qualities?
I wonder. How pervasive is the effect of our culture on our thinking? David Kuo left a comment on Bonnie's post in which he states,
As a working father with a working wife - and a caregiver at home during the day - I’m able to be much more involved in my child’s care than I would if I was the primary breadwinner. With our current arrangement, my wife and I have both made the conscious decision to manage our careers and daily activities such that we have to balance the demands of our jobs. Thus, I generally have to be home by 5pm nearly everyday. Thus, I can’t travel as much as my job would otherwise demand. The same constraints hold true for my wife. As a result, our careers are no doubt compromised to a large degree. But by alleviating the pressure of having just a single earner, we are better equipped to place limits on how much our careers (my career especially) intrudes on our time with our child.
So, it's actually better that both he and his wife have careers while having children, because the responsibilities of their family act as constraints of sorts, thereby preventing him and his wife from staying at the office late into the night.
Huh?
How about just coming at home at 5 p.m., regardless of whether or not your wife is working? And if your career intrudes on your time with your child, then maybe you should find another career? Just a thought.
Okay, so how am I being consistent in supporting Palin? Autonomy. Sarah Palin, as well as Dara Torres, Bonnie Lindblom, David Kuo, Meg Meeker, et. al., all have the right to make choices for their lives. And while I have the right to disagree with Sarah Palin's choices, I certainly don't have the right to tell her how to live her life. While I may disagree with her decision to lead a life of public service while raising children, I don't have to let that choice negate my supporting her politically.
So, with regards to the 2008 Presidential race, here's what we're left with:
- Palin has made her choice to be governor of Alaska, despite having underage children.
- McCain picked her as VP candidate.
- Given her positions on political issues, her background, and her worldview, I think it was a brilliant move by McCain.
- Therefore, I support her because of political reasons, despite other misgivings I may have.
I'll take the McCain / Palin team over the Obama / Biden team in a heartbeat. You can call it being politically expedient, and you'd be right.
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